Healing, growth, spirituality. These terms are quite important, and yet they’re thrown around like buzzwords because we don’t know what they mean. Any good act starts from within. The genesis is within us. Sometimes, life throws curveballs in our direction. We may come from dysfunctional family systems, which, from a young age, put us in a state of confusion.
Yet, when we grow older, we are no longer bound by these systems. We are our own people. We are individuals who have to make decisions. The decisions that we make impact others, and the way we feel bleeds on to the things that we do. We can no longer blame the past after a certain point.
We have to take matters into our own hands and learn because we have to be better no matter what happens. It’s our duty and responsibility to do what is right, to be better not only for others around us but for ourselves.
Healing Is a Difficult Journey
There is no sugar-coating it; healing is one of the hardest things an individual can do. The path is always there for us to follow, but it’s not an easy path, and breaking the patterns that led us to dark places is not easy. Every single day, we may have to confront our pasts and understand why things happened the way they did, but once that is done, we must live in the present moment and make sure that we do the right thing no matter what happens.
To heal means to let go. To let go is to accept that the past is the past and the waking world that we live in is the one where we can choose. We can choose to be better every single day. The choice is always in our hands. We are the decision-makers, the arbiters of our own lives. However, to fully gain this personal autonomy we need to recognize truths that lie within ourselves.
There are many steps we can take that others have written about, from journaling to therapy. Many solutions exist, but it’s up to us to follow through with them and actually make a lasting change.
Learn From the Struggles of Others
When we embrace our own truth through introspection, we can enhance the process of our healing journey, making it more effective by learning from the struggles of others. In the oversaturated and corporate run world that we live in, it’s difficult to find genuine and honest people who have been through something similar to us. This leads to a great deal of confusion.
However, this is what separates books from simple social media and hearing things from YouTube videos. Books are often written after an author has undergone extreme introspection and learned something useful about themselves because they would have had to in order to have written something meaningful.
Books that discuss dysfunctional family systems cannot cure the problem. They can’t change the reality that one has lived up until that point. However, they can provide a sense of closure. They can allow us to forgive ourselves because these books often show us the patterns that dysfunctional family systems come from and how these patterns can lead to a cycle of sadness, self-loathing, and anger.
Unpacking the Overshare by Dawn Banksy
After great introspection and after learning from her own mistakes, this courageous author wrote about her life in this memoir. This memoir deals with different problems. However, one theme stays consistent a dysfunctional family system. This theme looms in the background of this memoir. It’s always there, in the shadows, hanging over it. You might even miss it at first, but it’s always apparent there is a reason behind the way she acts the way she does.
The mistakes that the author makes in her life are many, and she discusses them in great detail, from the way she never felt satisfied in any relationship to the way she’d keep searching for something better, whether in the form of material goods, people, or activities. This book shows us what it means to heal. The journey of healing is shown in the magnitude of how difficult it truly is for someone to embrace their own truth and no one else’s.
Conclusion
We hope that anyone who reads this article learns something, at the very least, learns the value of forgiveness, of being kind to oneself and letting go. Some things we have to let go and other things we keep because they bring us value and they make us feel good. We just have to learn to separate the good from the bad.