What makes us whole? Wholeness is an idea that refers to being undivided and undamaged. It means that he/she has fully healed from the troubles and the traumas of the past. Wholeness is something everyone strives for, but it can be a lengthy and quite often tumultuous journey. Learning from trauma and overcoming it is something that requires patience. It requires enough patience to process emotions and pain, and it also requires time alone. People who have had traumatic experiences in their lives have to learn to let go, but letting go is not easy. However, in this blog, the books presented will try to make the healing process a little bit easier. A variety of books that deal with learning from trauma and overcoming it, the books shown will be quite well written and will cover the topic in a great amount of detail.
How Trauma Can Shape Our Personalities
Trauma shapes us in many ways. Our entire personality is affected largely by other people. Sometimes, the people around us can make us think or feel things that we otherwise would not think about ourselves. The words we hear and the energies we exert for others end up affecting our brains in so many ways that we aren't even aware. If, as children, we experienced something traumatic, then that would lead to us developing coping mechanisms that might not be the healthiest. This is because, at a young age, one's mind is very susceptible to the things that happen around us.
Books That Will Teach One To Learn From Trauma And Overcome It
Let's take a look at some of the books that will teach you to get over past traumas. Written with respect and ensuring that the subject matter is dealt with with the appropriate amount of sensitivity.
1. The Realtor By Dawn Banksy
The Realtor is an autobiography that chronicles the life experiences of the author, who struggled in the real estate industry, all the while dealing with many of the emotions of her childhood trauma. The book presents a narrative that showcases the effects of a traumatic childhood and how it can be difficult for someone to heal from it later in their lives.
2. The Myth of Normal, by Gabor Maté, MD
This is a book that tries to explain that trauma can come from not just bad things happening but also from certain expectations not being met or good things not happening. The book also talks about how trauma affects people's bodies and also their minds. An insightful and powerful book that talks about learning from trauma and how a toxic culture can lead to trauma manifesting in people.
3. The Transformation, by James S. Gordon, MD
This book details how one can help remove trauma from one's life. Through an evidence-based approach, the book explains to readers how wholeness and healing can come after trauma and the type of tactics that need to be utilized when dealing with people who are traumatized.
4. What Happened to You?, by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD, and Oprah Winfrey
This book, written by Oprah Winfrey in collaboration with Dr.Bruce Perry, discusses where trauma comes from, as well as how it continues to affect people. Much of it explains that childhood trauma can cause people to act or behave in a way that isn't ideal.
5. My Grandmother's Hands By Resmaa Manakem
This book explains how institutionalized racism can lead to people developing trauma. The book particularly deals with how internalized trauma can often become a part of a person's personality and how breaking away from it can be very difficult.
6. The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
This book talks about how trauma can wire itself into both one's body and brain. It discusses how nearly everyone is affected by trauma, large and small.
7. No Bad Parts, by Richard Schwartz, PhD
This book discusses how the loudest voices that we hear in our heads, the parts of our personalities that criticize us and tell us that whatever we do is wrong, as a result, we end up fighting, ignoring, disciplining, or feeling ashamed of whatever we're doing.
8. The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity
In this book, the author explains how childhood trauma can lead to long-term health consequences that can take time to heal.
9. Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse By Shannon Thomas LCSW
This book is all about psychological abuse and how, despite it not leaving any bruises or scars, it has its own damage, and to heal it, one must go through the six recovery stages.
10. The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook By Christopher Germer
In this book, the reader is taught how to engage in mindfulness activities and journaling, and compassion is explained as a tool that can help one reach one's goals and become a better person for others.
Conclusion
Hopefully, this blog will provide insightful and helpful books for anyone who is trying to heal in their journey of learning from trauma and healing.
